The Thinking Other Woman

What you should know BEFORE your affair.
 

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IF THIS REALLY IS YOU STILL SHOWING UP EVERY NOW AND THEN, I JUST WANT TO SAY THANK YOU.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 21, 2022 at 1:10 PM

So: I just unfriended my brother on Facebook. 

I guess that relationship, and every family relationship, is O-V-E-R.

Which, really, is a good thing. They were never really a family to me.


I thought, at the very least, me and my brother were sort of on speaking terms ... almost. But, you know, when a person writes online that he doesn't have any fam...

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OK, so now that you've got the backdrop (see the previous post), here's what's going on:

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 19, 2022 at 7:40 PM
*I don't know why this stupid thing keeps changing color.

Having taken care of my great aunt and cousin the past 
thirteen years--well, the last one passed away a year 
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Originally posted on Medium in 2019; reposted here so you can understand what's coming.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 19, 2022 at 7:10 PM

I just heard from my mother again after a lapse of about thirteen years.


For many years before that, my mother would bring problems with other people to me, expecting me to listen for literally hours on end as she went on and on about how badly someone had treated her.


I clocked her at three hours once, I'm not kidding.


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WTF? v. 3

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on February 12, 2022 at 3:50 PM

I'm still doing the Darlene Lancer codependency book; it's just gotten a little derailed because of the sudden need to start compiling and editing all my old essays into one file and then struggle with KDP. (If you don't know why, check out the "bad news" post a few entries down. I miss reading and interacting on Medium, but I was wasting a lot of time there. I do mean to continue with the exercises from the Darlene Lancer book, maybe tomorrow wh...

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More thoughts, and bad news.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on January 29, 2022 at 6:15 AM

SO ... I forgot to check transits to our Davisons. (How could I??) This is for Valentine's Day, natch:


 

Our Davison: Jupiter sextile Moon, Uranus conjunct Moon (actually, that was exact on the 15th. As you know, didn't...

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More homework from Chapter 1

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on January 27, 2022 at 8:30 PM

Since the affair ended and my married man is never coming back, I've just decided to stay alone and heal codependency. To that end, I have started a book called Conquering Shame and Codependency by Darlene Lancer, and I'm going to do all of the exercises in it. That's what this post is part of.

2.) Think about the last time you had a shame attack and try to identify the underlying fears and ...

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So, since this person is never coming back ...

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on January 27, 2022 at 6:50 PM

I've decided to just stay by myself and heal codependency. I'm fat and old, and I don't want another relationship. Fuck knows, I don't want to online date! I don't care if I never have sex with anyone again. I don't expect much in life anymore. All I'm going to do is work and pay bills and end up in a nursing home.

I was stupid enough to spend my whole life thinking Something Wonderful was going to "happen" and my life would suddenly get...

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It's In The Astrology, But It Will Never Happen. Why Not?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on January 27, 2022 at 5:35 PM

So, the guy is long gone. I understand I will never see or hear anything from this person ever again. Who shows up again after seven years??? NOBODY. No one is going to suddenly leave their wife, whom they're about to celebrate forty years of marriage with, for a four month emotional affair whom they haven't seen in seven years and haven't spoken to in over four.


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I love you. If you ever come back, please read.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on January 11, 2022 at 11:10 PM

Hi.



I guess you read my last message and for some reason decided to stay away.



I don't know why. Maybe things are much better at home now, and you were only stopping by to check on me, hoping you didn't ruin my life and that I would just go on and find a way to become happy, as you are. Maybe things

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What Could I Have Done Differently?

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on January 3, 2022 at 6:00 PM

For the longest time, a married guy I had a four-month emotional affair with kept lurking around my website. 


Even when he started hiding behind a VPN, I figured out it was him, because he would go directly to a post or two I had made specifically to him when I was still trying to figure out if it was him or not, and he would read them over and over. ...

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I guess we'll never see or speak to each other again.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on December 13, 2021 at 6:35 AM

I'm a mess without you.


I love you. I miss you. Please don't let it end this way.

A Piece of Wisdom

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on November 24, 2021 at 11:05 AM

How much do we need to surrender and how often do we need to take initiative in our lives?


When to surrender? When you have no control. When you have control, take initiative.


I'm the one with no control, here, so I'm surrendering. 

News

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on November 2, 2021 at 11:30 PM

Charlie, maybe you missed it, but I sent you an email.

Posted by The Thinking Other Woman on November 2, 2021 at 1:40 PM

Hi! Thanks for stopping by. I got your contact form, and sorry, but I don't know a Charlie. I'm not the droid you're looking for. :(


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